Five steps to finding your dream partner

Finding the right one when it comes to partners isn’t easy, but what usually complicates the situation is that you aren’t really sure what the ‘right one’ is like. If you don’t have a focused idea of the kind of partner you’re looking for, you aren’t likely to recognize them even if you fell over their feet in the coffee shop. Take a look at the following steps and see how easy it is to define your dream partner.

Step 1: What’s the most important attribute that your dream partner must have. Unlike the other attributes you will put on your list, this is the one unshakable thing that your partner has to have. The idea here is that this is going to be something important to you and it will help you to immediately narrow your search down to only the potential partners who have this personality trait or physical characteristic.

Step 2: What physical/personal characteristics are important to you. Make a list. Long hair, short hair, talkative, reserved, tall, athletic, sexy smile, nice accent, etc. What would make the ideal partner for you. Try and get a picture in your mind. Then once you meet people who have a number of these characteristics you can see how they score on the other points on your list.

Step 3: What does your dream partner do? What kind of education do you hope they have? What do they do in their spare time? Is it important to you that they’ve been to college? Do they need to be someone who is in a good secure job? What about people who need to travel as part of their job, is this something you’d be prepared to live with for the right partner, or not. Answer these questions for yourself to know what you want in your partner.

Step 4: Think about the kinds of opinions that you have on issues important to you - such as political or religious beliefs. How necessary is it to have your dream partner agree with you on these? Are you happy to consider a partner who opposes you completely on these issues?

Step 5: The last thing for you to think about is the future. For any relationship to endure, both parties need to be walking in the same direction headed for the same destination and that’s the purpose of this final step of defining your dream partner — to know where you’re going and if your partner is headed the same way. Think long-term.